We all face it, people die every day. The people we become close to physically disappear. But they are still there, pictures, videos and memories all show the person you miss, yet they are not there to hug you or chat with. You think about it sometimes, and you just wonder, what will I do when that person dies? Some of us know when it's coming, as cancer or another terminal illness has let you know itself. I have lost people to cancer, and yet I don't think it's fair how some people lose their life to something like cancer when, that person has been a modern saint, and there are others in this world who murder and get away with it. I know how it feels when you lose someone. I am one of those people who get so attached to people, and after My friend went back to her country after a year of staying with us, I had this feeling where, I missed that person so much! So it took me a while to adjust myself to that again changed situation. So when you are so attached to someone like a family member, that bar is raised because you are even more attached, and you are there for longer.
The best way (in my view) to face death, is to talk to people, communication will take your mind off it, another way is through music; by listening to songs with meanings, you almost feel as if you are sharing that persons pain.
My mother, is one of the wisest people I know. And one of my favorite sayings she has taught me is 'everything happens for a reason', this makes me look at a situation and think, yeah, it did. And my brain will think of all the reasons that make that statement valid.
I am a Christian, and I am not going to inflict my beliefs, but I think about what that person would want, up in heaven, I.e. would they want you to cry for weeks? No. They would want you to enjoy your life.
Thankyou for your time,
And I am also open to positive and negative comments,
Harry
